I was sorting through some of my files on my computer a while ago, and ran across something I had written many, many years ago. It should be noted that I very rarely get rid of things on my computer, as I am certain that at some point I’ll wish I had kept it. I just keep buying bigger hard drives, and burning backup cds. It’s a sad obsession that’s paid off more times than it’s hurt, so I see no signs of it changing. Anyway, I found something titled “Ron’s Rules”, and I figured I’d check out what my teenage self had written, and it turns out I had some pretty good ideas (I think) back then about how to live. I’ve cleaned up the language slightly, but the file said pretty much this:
- Be true to yourself.
- More often then not, You’ll be wrong.
- More often then not, other people will be wrong.
- If you say you’re going to do something, do it.
- Your memory isn’t that good.. write it down.
- It will not all work out in the end, you have to make it work.
- If you don’t have a reason to get out of bed, don’t.
- If it’s really dumb and not worth thinking about, quit thinking about it.
- If you’re not sure, don’t say it.
- Time helps.
- Things change.
- You can count on people… Just be sure you know which ones.
- Being honest is more important that being nice.
- Never give up. Never.
- Don’t change yourself just because someone else wants you to. Your the one who has to live with yourself later.
- Things that you have no control over will not be affected by how much you worry about them.
- The order of things: Live an upright, Godly life. Stay Sane. Fulfill your responsibilities, Enjoy life.
I’ve highlighted two of them, because, for me at least, these two are always closely linked, and all these years later I still totally suck at keeping them. I’m forever cursed by the “it seemed like the right thing to do at the time” syndrome. Now we’re not talking about me waking up with prostitutes or giving nuclear secrets to the Russians or anything with worldly ramifications, but just the stupid little things that tend to make my days (and other people’s days) less pleasant, cause I can’t keep my mouth shut, or the things I say just come out wrong. About 5 years ago, after watchng Gulliver’s Travels, I decided that I’d pause before speaking, so as to filter out the most retarded things I might have instantly said. (if you’ve seen the movie, that probably makes sense. If you haven’t, you really should, because it’s excellent) And so far that’s gone pretty well. It’s those things that seem like good things to say up until about 5 seconds after you’re done saying them that I still have a real hard time filtering out.
Now, it goes without saying that I also still suck at 8 and 16, but I think that they were put in there as more wishful thinking than anything else. I’m going to overthink things until the day I die, I’m sure. There have been occasions when it’s been helpful, but they’re rare. Very rare.